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Six Strategies to Maintain Your Femininity in the World of Business

Jun 29, 2015

If you are a woman in leadership, or own your own business, I’m guessing you have heard something like this before:
“You have to be tough, aggressive, and rigorously competitive. Don’t show weakness or vulnerability. If you do, you’ll instantaneously lose respect. Emotions have no place in business!”

But, if you have ever seen a momma bear protecting her cubs, you know that the feminine force is in no way weak.

Natalie Peace Contributor at Forbes Magazine alludes to this metaphor in her article entitled, “The Awesome Power of Femininity in Business” and goes on to say:

“Visionary women have helped shift the landscape, showing us new models of leadership that include natural feminine qualities like softness, kindness, giving and emoting. Authentic relating has become the focus of many organizations committed to fostering team dynamics where people feel safe and supported in doing their best work.”
http://www.forbes.com/sites/nataliepeace/2012/05/09/the-awesome-power-of-femininity-in-business/

 

Things to Consider in Cultivating Your Authentic Feminine Self in the World of Business:
(These concepts, in great part, are inspired by my mentor and coach extraordinaire, Stacey Martino)

•  You don’t have to be taught HOW to be feminine. The truth is, you know how instinctively. The learning process comes into play in learning how to drop your protective barrier that keeps you from being the natural you.
•  Femininity isn’t about how you look. It’s not about your clothing, hairstyle, make-up or jewelry. Instead, it’s about you are ‘being’, which emanates from the inside.
•  The core quality of femininity is openness. Feminine energy takes it all in, is vulnerable, nurturing, welcoming, energetic, seeks pleasure, able to feel everything and enjoys the ebb and flow of a wide range of emotions.
•  It is a woman’s ultimate power; femininity is NOT a weakness. Just ask Super Woman! She is full of power, yet incredibly feminine.
•  Consider cultivating your femininity in your personal life through dancing, taking bubble baths, listening to music, laughing, burning candles, using potpourri, incense and/or perfume, or putting on your favorite soft or silky outfit.
•  Ask yourself questions like: How open am I on a regular basis on a scale of 1 to 10? In what ways do I shut down to protect myself? How do I pull away, care less and distance myself?

 
Shan White is a certified life coach specializing in guiding women through traumatic transitions and challenging changes. Contact her today to schedule a complimentary “Get Acquainted” session.
Website: www.WomensPeakPerformanceCoaching.com
Office: 719-388-8758

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Triumph During Transitions

Apr 6, 2015

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There are intrusions and unexpected events that take us off our course from moving toward what we want in life. Professionally, we may get a new boss or job, be dealing with declining budgets, go into business for ourselves, or retire. Personally, we may be struggling in marriage, with a blended family, dealing with divorce, being an “empty nester’ or grieving the loss of a loved one.
At certain pivotal points in life, the intensity and duration of change can sometimes cause us to react with increased anxiety, anger and fear. This is only natural.
We all get derailed. Depending on the impact of the event our ability to face what happened will vary. During these times, how can we align who we are with what we’re facing?

1. Acceptance: Tony Robbins says, “Change is inevitable. Progress is optional”.
Accepting the reality of change is the key to gracefully dealing with change.                                               Change is Inevitable
Think of maneuvering through change like practicing the martial art of
Aikido. When you move with the flow of what is coming at you, rather than
retreat or fight, your resistance lessens and your ability to face it strengthens.

2. Choose a new mindset: A mindset is a defined as a way of thinking that determines one’s behavior, outlook, and mental attitude. What are some positive things that could come out of this difficult situation? One option is to view it as a wake-up call in order to cause us to ask ourselves if the course we have been on still has the same meaning for us. Consequently, does the unexpected change offer a new opportunity?

3. Annihilate your negative self-talk: Begin by challenging your thought life. Ask if what you are saying to yourself is even true. Suppose you tell yourself, “I never do anything right!” The truth is that you do lots of things right. What would your life be like if you no longer believed the lie?

4. Connect with others: The company and comfort of others who understand what you are going through can be a transforming experience. It is human nature to band together in times of crisis. Although it is natural to isolate and retreat, the best thing you can do for yourself is to reach out to another or join a group. When talking to those that have come through a challenging situation, they attribute a great deal of their success to the support of an individual or a group.
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5. Focus on progress instead of perfection: Perfection does not exist; instead,
focus on your capacity for progress. Progress is a goal that can be achieved
each day. Work toward an outcome of progress, instead of a perfect one.

6. Practice Gratitude: EckhartTolle said, “It is through gratitude for the present moment that the spiritual dimension of life opens up.” In the presence of difficulty, what is the good that you can be grateful for today?

 

Contact Shan today to schedule a complimentary “Transition Challenge” session.

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Masterful Mindsets While in Transition

Mar 23, 2015

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 Masterful Mindsets While in Transition

Mindset is one of the most important aspects of your life. With a successful mindset, possibilities are endless. Without it, you will find yourself in perpetual frustration and a sense of never really moving forward. Think of your mindset as your rudder on the boat of your life. Used properly, it will guide you to your ultimate destination. Used improperly, it will cause you to go in circles.

After studying some masters on mindset, I have put together some vital principles of a strong and successful mindset, especially when you’re dealing with challenging changes and transitions:

1. Purpose: If you can’t answer the question of “why” you are doing what you’re doing, the  Why
“how” will lack passion. Rick Warren, author of, “The Purpose Driven Life”, said “…without
purpose, life has no meaning. Without meaning, life has no significance or hope.” It is imperative to dig deep and understand why you are doing what you are doing. Once the root reasons are revealed, the “how” will flow naturally.
2. Prioritize: Everyday, do the thing that you don’t want to do the most. Brian Tracy, trainer & author,
has likened this habit tofrog “eating the frog”. If you figuratively eat the frog first thing in the morning,
everything else tastes wonderful to you and will feel easy in comparison.

3. Persistence: The mindset of success doesn’t ask “IF”, instead it asks “HOW”. If you are
asking yourself, “IF I overcome this challenge in my life?”, then consider a shift in yoursun
mindset. Instead ask, “HOW can I overcome this challenge in my life?”
Diana Nyad, the 60 year old swimmer, who swam from Cuba to Florida in 53 hours, said, “Find a way!” She said, “If it’s important to you, we can all get there…jelly-fish, sea-sickness, pain, cold…find a way.”
Perception 4. Perception (Self): Negative self-perception is the universal human condition of not feeling good enough or deserving. One of the best ways of discovering how you truly perceive yourself is to monitor your thought-life. Be brutally honest with yourself and audit how much negative
self-talk is occurring. Remember Henry Ford’s famous quote: “The unexamined life is not
worth living.”
5. Procrastination: This is my favorite! Steven Pressfield, in the “The War of Art”, said that inProcrastionation
reality, procrastination is an internal force called “Resistance”. He goes on to explain
that we feel resistance most strongly when we are about to dare greatly or grow
spiritually! The first time I fell into procrastination, after reading this, I tried it. I have to admit to you, I just got plain stubborn about it. So, I MADE myself do what I was avoiding, and I really did expand as a person. The next time you procrastinate, try pushing through, and see what comes out of it.

6. Perfection Paralysis: Tony Robbins, says it the best: “Perfectionism isn’t about healthy striving
for excellence… it is a way of thinking and feeling that says, ‘If I look perfect, do it perfect, work
perfect, and live perfect’, I can minimize shame, blame and judgment.” Perfection does not
exist. Instead, focus on your capacity for excellence. Excellence is a goal that can be achieved
each day. Consider working towards an excellent outcome, instead of a perfect one.

Remember, if you can train the rudder of your mindset in positive and forward-moving ways, the boat of your life will reach the destination of your dreams!

Shan is a certified life coach specializing in guiding women through challenging changes and transitions. Contact her today to schedule a complimentary “Get Acquainted” session.

 

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Would A “Rose” By Any Other Name Smell As Sweet?

Dec 8, 2014 0

By any measure Rose Chase Smith is doing good for the Austin community. Smith founded her organization, R.O.S.E.S. (Reaching Out Supporting Every Sister) to provide a networking and supporting platform for women. The author of “Nothing Like Me,” also established an annual Meet The Author Extravaganza. It was created and designed in an effort to help showcase Texas authors and poets, and give them more exposure. But, most importantly it allows Smith the opportunity to promote reading and writing, enhance her community, and help others. She has demonstrated that providing lift to others is her passion and the foundation upon which R.O.S.E.S was built. Additionally, youth and anyone who aspires to write, publish, or explore any area in this industry benefits from attending.

Meet The Author Extravaganza

The Meet The Author Extravaganza is now about to enter its fourth year. Smith allows every author/vendor to have their books on display and for sale. They sign all books purchased and chat with guests. The event is also arranged to feature an open mic session for authors and poets to introduce themselves and their work.

The organizer reports,“The venue is huge, so it is perfect to house the Literary Event of The Year!”

The event typically lasts five hours, and the authors get to know each other through networking and are able to find out some delicious new ways to market and promote their work. Some authors find editors and other talent that will help them to write better books. While you see them watching each other, it’s not in about jealousy or envy – it’s so that they can learn from one another. Each one seems eager to share how they made certain aspects of writing, publishing or selling their books more optimally successful.

Jessica Matthews attended during the first year and gushed her enthusiasm. “The event was inviting and the authors embraced everyone who attended. It was nice to have an opportunity to ask questions, exchange ideas and get to know the creators of such extraordinary books. Kudos to Rose Smith and R.O.S.E.S!!”

After the second annual event, Jedah Mayberry, author of “The King of Preston Plains Middle,” shared the take-way he experienced. “It provided me with the opportunity to rub elbows with other writers, benefit from their experiences. I also joined an author association during the event, as they had a representative on site.”

Mayberry and others have gone on to showcase their books at book festivals, advance their online presence, host premium book events, do school visits, become guest speakers at various venues and more.

Woe of Writers

One offshoot of the extravaganza was the WOW (Woe of Writers) group formed by Smith after the second year of Meet The Author. This enabled writers who she knew to come together in a restaurant setting and discuss their goals, milestones and challenges. In this more relaxed environment, many authors and writers were able to better articulate their dreams and find inspiration to go forward with their various book, screen and other projects.

Annual School Supply Drive/Giveaway

Another feather in her cap is her annual school supply drive. Several years ago, she and her husband took money out of their own pocket and bought school supplies to give to underprivileged children. Since then, several stores and individuals have donated money and supplies to help increase the reach of this initiative. Smith has even set up at places like Wal-Mart to sell baked goods and increase the coffers so that more children can get school supplies.

The community has come to count on Smith. For females in the community, she is a top-of-mind source. Many school children look hopefully in her direction so that they have the supplies they need before school starts. Authors and their readers prepare to meet yearly and enjoy the extravaganza, and even girls without prom dresses knows about her collection of donated dresses from which they can select a glam dress to wear to their prom. Scores of Austinites know about the good Smith does in her community. They often declare, “And she is expecting nothing in return for doing it.”

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